A Worthwhile Climb

Helping them change their marriage was like untangling a ball of yarn that had been played with by a mischievous cat for a very long time."Napier & Whitaker -- The Family Crucible In 1943, American psychologist, Abraham Maslow, published a paper entitled, “A Theory of Human Motivation”. In it he described a hierarchy of five… Continue reading A Worthwhile Climb

Confidants

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up.  But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!”Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 I walked the earth for too many years without having close male friends.  Sure, I stayed… Continue reading Confidants

Round and Round the Barn

I’d do almost anything to help save or strengthen a marriage. From my experience, most distressed husbands and wives who seek marital therapy confess communication challenges.  It’s pretty much ubiquitous.  All of us are broken, and our brokenness has no better stage upon which to play than in a marriage.  Naturally, men and women who… Continue reading Round and Round the Barn

Sustainable Marriage

I met my wife, Melissa, on a cycling trip on the Oregon coast.  I obviously shocked her on our group’s last night together at a Portland restaurant, when I asked for her number.  I used some line that made her smile.  Before the evening was out, she shared her info, and so began an exciting… Continue reading Sustainable Marriage